Comments on: Study: Virginity Pledges Don’t Work

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 12:49:23 +0000

We hardly need a study for this. Abstinence only programs were a display of Christian morality leaking into our school systems. Even though young people can restrain themselves there is no point in doing so when you can do it safely. Out thoughts about sex as a society need to evolve if we ever want our kids to be safe.

By: Meg

Meg — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 12:36:03 +0000

You're right, this particular article was not very convincing. Let me send you to other's that covered this topic.
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,473509,00.html
http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/press-releases/2006-releases/press05022006.html
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/12/28/AR2008122801588.html
http://www.guttmacher.org/media/nr/2006/12/19/index.html

I think it's silly to assume science has an agenda on this one. It's actually kind of controversial and it's not gaining them money either. I think theyre just trying to show what smart people all ready know-- we shouldn't be trying to so hard to restrict other people's sex drives, but educating them on it!

By: Helga

Helga — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 12:27:59 +0000

I think you are really mistaken here. Your kids have waited until marriage.. as far as you know. My parent's wanted the same from me. They restricted my dating and where I could go and all that, but I just ended up losing my virginity in a park at 14. Lol. It's not something I regret but I wish I had had the opportunity to be open about it. In fact, most kids I know lose their virginities around 14. Nothing wrong with that, nothing you can do to stop it either.

While it's true young people can wait, for what reason should they? They shouldn't have to, thats the thing. Teach them to be safe about it and the threat is virtually gone. Plus, restricting the sex drive is an unhealthy thing to do. I am sad to hear 4 children had their lives restricted so much.

By: citiesindust

citiesindust — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 12:21:46 +0000

You are a very lost soul. Sexual exploration is the greatest expression of God and yet you hate your fellow man for doing something that is natural to every human being-- even those who are doing it safely? On what moral high grounds do you stand?

I am sad to here you are angry at your friends for making their own choices. It has nothing to do with morals. If two people want to please each other and neither is being harmed than there is no problem with that morality.

If you are getting this from the bible you should be aware that the only reason it said to abstain from sex that isn't for reproduction is because back then they needed more people in their tribes...so telling people sex for pleasure was a sin was the most efficient way of bumping up the population.

I can't believe adults still think like you.

By: Ola Lilliehöök

Ola Lilliehöök — Sun, 31 Oct 2010 15:34:16 +0000

What?? You just made the best case against abstinence pledges I have ever heard, thank you.

By: Addicted to Unrealistic Expectations « Hungry Hungry Hippos

Addicted to Unrealistic Expectations « Hungry Hungry Hippos — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 23:20:49 +0000

[...] other is another recent study that shows that teenagers who take “virginity vows” are sexually active in exactly the same proportion, at exactly the same age, and with exactly the [...]

By: Matthew DeLong

Matthew DeLong — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 20:34:54 +0000

Your logic is flawed, but I think you've put your finger on the point. The students often take the pledge as part of a sex-ed program, often abstinence-only, but it is not taken in good faith. If that is the case, what is the value of the pledge as part of a sex-ed policy?

If the reality is that the vast majority of teenagers are going to have premarital sex, whether they've participated in an abstinence-only program or not, then it makes sense to employ a reality-based policy that teaches kids how to be safe if and when they choose to become sexually active.

Denying them education about condoms and birth control only increases the likelihood that they will contract a disease or seek an abortion for an unwanted pregnancy.

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 17:54:35 +0000

This study seems biased. It seems they took two groups that were actually identical and then used them to say a virginity pledge does not work.

The study says that the teens in both groups had similar attitudes about sex. But if the teenagers who were taking the virginity pledge had similar attitudes towards sex, then they were not taking the pledge in good faith!

If I take 20 oranges and then label half of them as apples, why would I be surprised when I find that all 20 still taste like oranges! They intentional compared two groups of teenager who had the same attitude towards sex and then acted surprised when it turned out they had the same attitude towards sex!

Obviously this was "science" with an agenda! If the teenagers had the same attitude towards sex, then they were never intending to follow through with a virginity pledge in the first place!

By: mv

mv — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 17:49:06 +0000

i agree..its seems ur the odd one out if ur not having sex…nd if ur dating its realy difivult 2 actualy avoid the dituation of getting in2 it..im 22..n im a virgin..but with every passing day…n new people cuming in2 ur lfe…im really finding it hard to stop maself from the thought…not that u had low morals…its about times ur week n vulnerable n u fall…n another thing iv noticed id that guys always think that sex is the only way of proving that they love the girll..its only form of expression they have…n its dificult 2 get out of tht one..like seriously…

By: Unsurprising News: Virginity Pledges Don’t Work « The Creature Politic

Tue, 30 Dec 2008 16:58:18 +0000

[...] Matthew DeLong at the Washington Independent (who points out that honest pro-lifers ought to see this data as an opportunity to change their policy preferences and support measures that actually reduce the number of unwanted pregnancies and STDs, like comprehensive sex education) [...]